Each year, romance scams steal millions of dollars from hopeful hearts across the country. Thousands of victims are left not only financially shaken, but emotionally devastated as well. But falling for someone shouldn’t mean falling into debt.
The good news? This doesn’t have to be you!
This month and beyond, a little awareness can go a long way in protecting both your heart and your hard-earned savings. Let’s break down what romance scams are, how they work, and what you can do to avoid becoming a victim of a romance scam.
What is a Romance Scam?

According to the Federal Trade Commission (FTC), a romance scam happens when a criminal creates a fake online identity to gain someone’s affection and trust, then uses the illusion of a romantic relationship to manipulate or steal from them.
Scammers are willing to say (and do) just about anything to convince you their feelings are real. They often reach out through dating apps, social media platforms, or even text messages. After building what feels like a meaningful connection, they begin asking for money or personal information.
While the details may vary, the pattern is often the same: They claim to live or work far away, potentially overseas or in the military. Conversations are quickly moved off of dating apps and over to text or phone. Scammers will create an emotional tie by showering their victim with affection very early on, then create an urgent financial emergency. This is where they begin asking for money, specifically through hard to trace methods like gift cards, wire transfers, cryptocurrency, or payment apps like PayPal or Cash App.
The stories romance scammers come up with can often be elaborate. Medical emergencies, business investments, or even travel expenses to come visit you are all tactics they continue to use to get you to send them money. Be sure to trust your gut if you believe the story you’re being told is extravagant or has too many missing puzzle pieces to make sense.
Romance scammers commonly target people who may be feeling lonely or going through major life transitions. However, anyone can become a victim. These criminals are skilled manipulators who exploit trust, kindness, and vulnerability. So how do avoid becoming one?
How to Avoid Romance Scam Tactics

The best defense against these scams is knowing the warning signs.
Be cautious if someone you’ve never met in person professes strong feelings towards you very quickly. If they avoid video calls or meeting face to face, this is also a red flag to be aware of. It may be a scam if the person you’re talking to refuses to provide verifiable details about their life or themselves, especially if the stories they tell you have multiple inconsistencies. Above all, if this person asks for money from you for any conceivable reason, it might be time to consider if you’re speaking to a scammer.
A major red flag? Any requests for gift cards, cryptocurrency, wire transfers, or help moving money. Legitimate romantic partners do not ask you to handle financial transactions on their behalf, especially early on or when you’ve never met. This is a stand out tactic that romance scammers lean on in the attempt to steal your money.
When talking to people online, take your time getting to know someone. Slow down the relationship if things feel rushed, or if you feel like you’re being pressured to make a decision. Consider reverse-searching profile pictures to see if the person you’re connecting with appears elsewhere online under different names. This can help you confirm if they are a verifiable person, or a fake profile used by a scammer.
And most importantly: talk to someone you trust about these kinds of interactions. A friend or family member may spot red flags that are harder to see when emotions are involved, which can save you (and your money) from heartbreak in the long run.
Smart Financial Habits That Protect You

Beyond spotting scam tactics, building strong everyday financial habits can offer an extra layer of protection. Never share your online banking login information, financial account numbers, or other personal details with someone you’ve met online. Monitor your monthly bank statements regularly. If you’re worried about unusual transactions potentially occurring on your account, then consider setting up account alerts so you’re notified of anything suspicious.
Be cautious when sending money over payment apps like Cash App or Zelle. Once money is sent, it can be difficult to recover in the case of fraud. In the case that you do decide to send someone money, take a moment to think before you hit send. Are you being pressured to pay this person? Do you have any doubts about this person’s intentions with your money? If you feel unsure, that may be your cue to step back and keep your funds where they are.
It’s also wise to regularly review your credit report and consider placing a fraud alert if you suspect suspicious activity. Remember, urgency is a scammer’s favorite tool. Real love is patient (and it certainly doesn’t demand gift cards).
Protect Your Heart and Your Wallet

This season, don’t let your heart win over your head. Your funds are yours to spend, save, and grow, and we’re here to help you keep them safe.
If you or someone you love has recently fallen victim to a romance scam, don’t stay silent. Contact our office at (717) 843-1153 for assistance and financial guidance. You can also access readily available resources about fraud protection on our website. After contacting your trusted financial institution, report the scam directly to the Federal Trade Commission at https://reportfraud.ftc.gov/.
When it comes to scams, knowledge is power. Share this information with friends and family, and let’s work together to stop romance scams before they steal another dollar — or another broken heart.


























